Posts Tagged ‘development’

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And the love of books begins again

March 2, 2010
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Parker's current favorite: Cornelius P. Mud, Are You Ready For Bed?

Parker is in love with books.  He show little interest in other toys at the moment and instead prefers to carry around a book – mostly any book will do.  If he happens to see you wander by while he’s carrying a book, he beelines to you and holds up the book with this pleading look in his eye and only someone with superhuman strength can say “no, I can’t ready you that book right now” which means that we have been reading lots and lots of board books in our house lately.  It’s adorably cute.  We were thrilled when Xander reached this phase – for a long time the only “toys” we had in our living room was just a bookcase overflowing with all of his favorites.  It’s great to get back here and have lots of cuddling and reading time with the little guy :-)

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Similar, but oh so different

February 15, 2010

When Xander was this age:

He discovered the joys of wandering around while snacking.  In Xander’s opinion, he always needed to have two of whatever he was eating – one in each hand.  It was pretty cute to watch him toddling all over the house with a cheerio in each hand, and if he ate one, he’d come back for another – never satisfied being out of balance with just one hand filled.

Now this kid comes along:

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He toddles around the house in a very similar manner as his brother.  However, he’s taken this snacking while toddling thing one step further.  Not only does he need a snack in each hand, but one in his mouth as well (don’t worry – we keep everything smaller than bit-sized to minimize choking risk).  That’s my second son – he never does anything part way.  I think “go big or go home” will someday be his motto… ;-)

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My Kid, the bully…

February 11, 2010

Each child has their own specific set of joys and challenges.  I guess that’s what keeps us on our toes.  With Xander, I sometimes worry that he is too sensitive, that he doesn’t stick up for himself and therefore it’s easier for him and his feelings to get trampled on.  I was just getting used to this – to responding to Xander and encouraging him to be assertive where appropriate.

With Parker, it’s the exact opposite.  Case in point: yesterday I arrived at day care to pick up the boys.  I stopped to check in with Parker’s teacher, and while I was there, another little boy’s mother arrived.  Parker was already in his coat and ready to go, but toddling around happily while I talked.  When this mother help up her son’s coat to get him ready, he immediately laid face-down on the ground and began to cry.  She and the teacher began discussing this new behavior of his while a little girl in the class helped the boy up off the floor.  He continued to cry, but was standing.  Parker toddled over with his arms out.  I almost picked him up as he walked by, but he had his arms out like maybe he was going to hug this other little boy, so I let him go.  What did he do you ask? He walked right up to this crying little boy with a big smile on his face and pushed him in the chest.  I was mortified.  I of course swooped Parker away and said “oh Parker, we don’t push, we hug” while demonstrating a hug.  Parker may or may not have understood the lesson (I repeated it a few times) but it’s been sinking in with me for months.  Our boy is rough and tumble through and through.  He loves to push, pull, tug and hit.  It doesn’t seem to matter how many times we remind him to be gentle or how many times we show him how to touch people gently.  His first reaction is to hit.  His behavior means that he is the child who is put into a pack ‘n play or a jump-a-roo to give the other kids in the room a break from him.  Parker really believes that he is just playing, that his actions are all in fun, but of course they aren’t interpreted that way.  We won’t give up, but this new kid with this new behavior is certainly proving to be a challenge for us!

How about the rest of you – do you have a hitter or a biter, and have you found any effective strategies in teaching them other methods of “playing”?

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How Do You Spell….?

February 8, 2010

We have been living inside a spelling bee for several weeks now.  My day starts sometimes as early as 5:30 with a whisper in my ear, “Mama, how do you spell ‘window’?” and if I don’t respond, “Mama, how do you spell ‘couch’?” and it’ll keep going until I start spelling.  In the car on the way to work I hear “Mama, how do you spell ‘tree’?” and “Mama, how do you spell ‘back hoe’?” or my personal favorite, “Mama, how do you spell ‘Signwithredinit’?” and “Mama, how do you spell ’somethingelse’?”   And my favorite response – “Wow, that’s a weird word”

The worst part of the inescapable spelling bee is that I’m pretty sure Xander thinks we’re like seals.  He asks and we perform.  I’m not convinced that there is any sort of retention or learning going on when we spell.  I think this because if you ask Xander to repeat what was just spelled, or even the first letter, he can’t (or won’t – not sure which) do it.  Which then leaves me wondering at 8pm when I’m trying to get the little man to sleep and he’s asking me “Mama, how do you spell ‘bear’?” why do I keep going?  I’m pretty sure it’s negative reinforcement, like when you pick up a phone to make it stop ringing, or pick up a tea kettle to get it to stop whistling.  I wonder when (and how) we’ll get out of this never-ending spelling bee…

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Yeah, he’s pretty cute.

January 27, 2010

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This morning and yesterday morning Parker and Xander have ended up on the couch watching a few moments of Little Einsteins.  I assumed that Parker, in his post-sleep stupor was mostly vegging out on the couch with a bottle, which for a few crazy moments in the morning is just fine with me.

This morning though, while I was trying to talk Xander out of his pajamas and into his clothes, Parker raised both hands over his head.  I thought, “hmm, that’s a little random” but when I turned around to see what he was looking at, it wasn’t random at all – he was following the directions.  In every single Little Einsteins episode (I say this with confidence because I have seen every single episode) when they take off in Rocket the have this little take-off routine that they want your help doing, and the routine ends with “blast off” and hands over your head.

I don’t know when I missed that, but apparently Parker is perfectly able and willing to follow directions these days – I guess I’m going to have to start giving some!