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365 Days – it sure flew by fast!

December 30, 2009
1 year old Parker

1 year old Parker

Last year on December 30th Zach and I got up before the sun (4am). I enjoyed my last shower for a few days, and then we grabbed our bag and drove about 3 blocks down the street to the hospital. When we arrived at the labor & delivery desk at 5am, they whisked me into a room and directly in to a johnny and then to bed where they stuck me with a few IV’s. We hung out and watched Parker’s movement on the fetal monitor for a while, and went through a few stacks of paperwork. Zach changed into some lovely maroon scrubs and at some point, I got my epidural. By 7:30am I was wheeled down to the operating room. I remember shivering a lot – first from the epidural, and then the cool temperature in the OR compounded the shaking. The very kind anesthesiologist tucked a warmed blanket around my head and shoulders while the rest of the operating team worked below my waist. I can remember a few tugs and pulls, and then wondering if they were going to make the incision soon, which is right when I first heard your little squeaky cry.

A few hours later, Zach and I were settled back in our room with the newest addition to our family, Parker Austin. Luckily, this time around, one of us knew how to breastfeed, so that process went a little more smoothly. Right from the start, you were Squeaky – you were the noisiest eater we had seen, and we chuckled over your little noises. You had lots of visitors that first day, and slept through nearly all of it. Your brother was so excited to meet you, and immediately insisted that we unswaddle you so that he could see your toes (I know, he’s got some strange ideas at times).

Eventually the visitors dwindled, and the three of us slept and relaxed for the rest of the day. The next few days in the hospital were pretty quiet and relaxed. You slept a lot, and I tried to sleep whenever possible. We tried to learn as much about your new personality as possible. We let you stay up to watch the ball drop on New Year’s Eve, but I told you that would be the last time in a long time that we’d allow it ;-) I finally let your Dad eat Thai food (during our pregnancy, I wouldn’t let anyone even have it in the same room with me – even the sight of the restaurant was enough to make me feel nauseous).

You have been a joy and delight every day since you were conceived. At the same time, you have challenged us in ways we could not have anticipated every day. You can be the best, happiest baby, and you have the most adorable smile that has only gotten cuter with the six teeth you have sprouted. On the other hand, you have very strong opinions, and are not shy about letting us know when you are irritated. Mostly, you get mad when we try to change your diaper (which sometimes takes two people – one to pin you down, and one to clean you up) or try to get you dressed – the cold winter has provided plenty of challenges for all of us – you can take mittens off almost as fast as we can put them on, and many days we skip them (assuming the weather isn’t too cold).

You are a wonderful sleeper.  If you had been our first child, we might have considered having a whole litter.  The first 6-8 months were rough, but now you’re amazing and we very much appreciate that (especially because your brother is still a rotten sleeper).  You are also an excellent eater (not at all picky) which is refreshing.  I’m sure you’ll develop your own picky tastes as you toddle into childhood, but for now we are enjoying the fact that you’ll eat pretty much all of whatever we put on your tray.

You learned to roll over at about 5 months.  By 7 months you were scooting and then crawling.  At 10 months you could stand for the briefest of seconds on your own, and started to cruise on furniture.  You took your first steps in the middle of your 11th month, but you still prefer to crawl  (oh man, you are the fastest crawler – it’s tough to keep up with you sometimes!)

You are a rough and tumble little boy.  You love to tackle your brother, or anyone else who might be sitting or lying on the floor.  You learned to crawl up the stairs at 9 months, but we are still too terrified to let you do it on your own, and your climbing back down skills are still a bit weak.  In some ways, you can be just like your brother.  In others, you are his antithesis, you are chaos where he is order.  He has loved you from the beginning though, and the two of you are clearly friends.  Xander does not like to go places without you, and even when offered a treat, he refuses if you can’t come.  He always remembers to ask if you can have some of whatever he has, and he loves it when the two of you “match” – especially clothing (which personally, isn’t my thing, but I do indulge your brother from time to time).  It is easy to see that you two will be the best of friends for years to come.

If I could only use one word to describe your first year, it would be bouncy.  We’ve had lots of ups and downs with you (your weight, your sleeping pattern, your moods, etc.) and the one movement you have loved ever since you could hold your head steady is bouncing – if we could just hold you under your arms, you would jump and bounce happily for hours at a time (unfortunately, we have yet to meet anyone with the arm strength to keep up with that desire).

You are my youngest and last son.  I love you more than words can describe.  You are smart, strong willed and have brief but wonderful moments of tenderness.  One of my favorite memories from 2009 will always be rocking quietly with you in front of the fire as you fall asleep and watching the snow slowly fall out the window.  It was as close to perfection as I have gotten in a long time.  I hope your first year was as wonderful for you as it was for us, and I know that this coming year will be just as amazing.  Happy Birthday Peanut!

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Parker Week 25 – It’s Been Six Months!!

June 30, 2009

It’s hard for me to believe that Parker is 6 months old today.  I can still remember him kicking around in my belly, still remember the excitement I felt the night before he was born, that morning that Zach and I got up before the sun and drove to the hospital.  I remember how nervous I felt, how the epidural gave me the shakes, and then holding my breath while the doctors gave Parker his first APGAR score.  I can remember holding him for the first time, and snuggling with that little baby burrito for hours and hours.  I remember a million more moments after that, but those moments don’t seem so long ago.

Parker is growing so fast.  He is already asserting his personality, and he is quite capable of telling us the things that he likes and the things that he doesn’t.  At six months, Parker likes the following: Bouncing or jumping, waking up  in the morning (always with smiles), cloth or soft toys to chew on, being tickled, bananas, apples, pears, peaches, carrots, squash and sweet potatoes, biter biscuits, his brother, his father, his mother, Mac screensavers, his hands and feet, rolling over, and standing or sitting in the grass.

Parker does not like the following: Being ignored, being alone, green beans, peas, loud noises, falling asleep, teething and getting buckled into his car seat.

Every new milestone is bittersweet for me.  I’m so excited to see what Parker will do next, and I can’t wait to meet the little boy he is turning into.  On the other hand, every day he grows farther and farther away from that curled up little burrito that I fell in love with six months ago.  I know that I’m not going to have any more children, so that was my last chance to enjoy all those infant moments.  As happy as I am to know that there will be a day that my whole family will sleep through the night, and that someday we will be done changing diapers, a part of me will always miss those moments with the baby versions of my children.

So, happy six-month birthday little man – you make me happy every day and continually surprise me with your antics.  And even though you are growing faster than I am ready for, know that you will always be my baby.

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It’s Been 4 Months Already??

April 30, 2009

Today is April 30th. Four months ago today I was lying on a hospital bed and as I type this, I think the surgeons were stitching me up after my C-section. It’s hard to believe that 4 months have flown by. On the other hand, Parker has grown so much that sometimes it’s hard to believe that it’s only been 4 months.

We’ve gotten to know each other pretty well in the past 4 months. Parker continues to enjoy his changing table, but he doesn’t fall asleep on it anymore. He likes to kick his legs, and enjoys making the kick ‘n play light up. He likes his Jumperoo, but only for about 10 minutes at a time. Parker LOVES to chew on his hands, and will sometimes choose hands over his pacifier or even a bottle. Parker also likes to grab and hold onto fabric, and sometimes put that in his mouth as well. Currently, his favorite toy is the blue doggie head rattle with a satin blanket body (courtesy of Matt & Abby - thank you!!) and mostly he loves to chew and drool on it.

Our boy who got so good at sleeping through the night (10pm-6am like clockwork!) has now phased into an infant who wakes up to eat at 2:30, 4:30 and 5:30. I’m hoping that this is just a growth spurt, and he’ll revert back to his good sleeping habits soon – I could certainly use the rest!!

Xander continues to be a wonderful big brother – he “watches” Parker for us, tells us when Parker needs his pacifier or a toy, and kisses him goodnight every night. In our bedtime routine, I always ask Xander what he’s going to dream about, and he always tells me, Parker (it’s very cute).

So, the first 4 months have been pretty great. Parker is becoming more interested in the world around him, and more interactive every day. We’re so lucky to have two such wonderful sons!

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Baffled At My Good Luck…

March 10, 2009

I’ve had the unfortunate experience of interacting with many health insurance companies over the years. It’s a topic that we all love to complain about. However, my current health insurance company, Harvard Pilgrim, has repeatedly impressed me with their excellent service.

For the past few years, when I need to contact health insurance, it’s usually to do with pregnancies. We all have nightmare stories about getting lost in automated telephone responses, or waiting on hold for hours before giving up.  My experiences with Harvard Pilgrim have been entirely different.  First, I learned that there is no co-pay for regularly scheduled pre-natal visits.  Let me repeat that – no co-pay.  So every time I went to pee in a cup and get weighed and measured, it was free!  They also assigned me a nurse consultant, so if I had any questions having to do with pregnancy or baby I could call and ask.  I think this would have been more useful if I was a first time mom, but it was nice to know that I had another source of information and assistance if I wasn’t getting what I needed from my doctor’s office.

I’ve found that when I call the number listed on the back of my insurance card, I don’t wait on hold for a long time.  I speak with a human who responds in clear, understandable language.  Since I work in the customer service field, I have some rather strong opinions on what good customer service should be like.  The representatives at Harvard Pilgrim have always been pleasant, easy to understand, they answer my questions effectively, and they always ask if there is anything else they can help me with.

After Parker was born, we received a few bills for his birth.  This is not unusual for that temporary period between the time when the baby comes out, and when the baby gets an insurance card.  When the first bill arrived, I called the number given to me in the hospital, which directed me to the hospital’s customer service department where I was supposed to give them Parker’s insurance number.  I spent 15 minutes on hold.  I’m not exaggerating – I timed it, 15 minutes.  When I finally got to the customer service rep and explained my story, she suggested I contact my insurance company.  In my head I was thinking “I just sat on the hold, jiggling a fussy baby for 15 minutes for what?!?”

After that entirely frustrating conversation, I called Harvard Pilgrim.  Hold time was less than 3 minutes.  I spoke with a friendly lady who informed me that the bill was scheduled to be paid in full, and the check was due to be mailed out at the end of the week.  The conversation lasted less than 3 minutes, and I got all of the information I needed.  I assumed that the whole matter had been address, and I was satisfied that my insurance company was on top of the bill.

Flash forward a month, and we get a second bill from the hospital.  Since the check was on it’s way last time, I had (apprently incorrectly) assumed that the matter had been taken care of.  This one was a little more confusing, as pieces of the bill had been paid, but not the whole thing.  They were still charging us $871 for the pediatrician’s attendance at the birth (that was the biggest chunk of the itemized bill).  This time, I opted to call the insurance company first.  Again, after a short wait, I spoke with a friendly rep, who looked up my account and told me again that the bill had been paid in full, and that the check had been sent out.  She then told me that after we hung up, she would call the hospital and give them the check number, so that the could process everything correctly.  I have never had a customer service rep offer to go that extra step.  I would have expected her to give me the check number so that I could call the hospital.  Instead, she volunteered to do the extra leg work.  It was impressive, and thus, blog-worthy.  I’m not sure how we managed to get so lucky with this particular health insurance company, but I sincerely hope that our employers don’t change insurance companies on us anytime soon!

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Xander Week 103 – Such A Good Big Brother!

January 12, 2009

The boys

The boys

The most asked questions we’ve had since Parker was born (aside from how is the baby) is how is Xander doing with the baby. Well, Xander is doing great! He has been a wonderful big brother. He’s been patient with both Zach and me (and patience for a 2 year old is impressive!) He loves to bring things to Parker – blankets, pacifiers, toys, etc. It’s very cute. He thinks that anything he might want is something that Parker might want. Xander has been slightly insistent that Parker play with or hold a toy – he doesn’t quite understand the whole concept of babies not wanting toys, and also insistent that Parker wants/needs his pacifier even if he isn’t interested (like when he’s nursing…) Overall, I’ve been pleasantly surprised and pleased with Xander’s reaction to his new brother. I imagine at some point Parker will show an interest in a toy Xander doesn’t want to share, and this honeymoon period will end, but for now my super sweet and empathic son is a wonderful big brother!