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Xander Week 65 - First Words…

January 21, 2008

IMG_0729I think more than any other big moment for babies is their first word. This is something that is remembered for years to come, something that kids will inquire about (what was my first word?). What I never realized before is how difficult it is to say “that’s it - that’s his first word”. The problem is that it’s a gradual thing. So the sssss sound that he was making a few months ago gradually became shhhh and then a few weeks later turned into sho, and from there finally became a distinguishable “shoe”. And the “sat!” became “that!” became “dat!” became “cat!” Which one came first? At some point he started to say “Hieeeee” when he walked into a room. Mmmm became ma, ma, ma became “more” and all of these things happened around the same time. It wasn’t like one day Xander sat up and said a word - he practiced for a long time, and eventually we understood what he meant, and strangers may still not understand what is slowly becoming Xander-speak.

Once in a while he surprises us, like the morning after Zach’s grandmother’s funeral when Xander sat up in bed and said quite clearly “Are we dead?” to which we answered - “No…” and then Xander laid back down and continued on with his regular babble. It was a bit strange, but not something that he repeated.

This past weekend he said “Hi cat”. I started to worry a bit. Since none of these words could be picked out as a first word, and he won’t necessarily repeat them on demand, and maybe we were hearing and understanding at a level that not everyone would. At his 15 month check-up they discussed these concerns. Our doctor’s office of course told us that kids develop speech at their own pace, and that as long as Xander can string two words together at his 2 year checkup then he’ll be on track. So the “hi cat” from this weekend went a long way in alleviating my concerns. I think I’ll be able to relax and enjoy the words as they develop into their own Xander-speak. We’re getting there :-)

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Xander Week 36 - Little Faker

May 22, 2007

P1000671.JPGXander discovered a new sound this week - a fake cough. So, he’ll be sitting in his high chair, or playing on the floor and maybe you won’t be looking at him, or interacting with him for a moment, and then all of a sudden you hear “ah ah ah ahhh ah ah”. So you turn to look, thinking “oh my gosh, is he choking?” Nope, he’s smiling at you, just trying to get your attention. What a little faker! I must admit, mimicking the sound back to him elicits an even bigger grin, which is entirely worth it. I’ve also discovered that Xander uses this new sound as a warning signal - “you’re irritating me somehow, and I’ll use my fake cough to warn you that if you don’t cut it out, I’m going to full on wail.”

It’s hard to believe that eight months have gone by - it feels like just yesterday we were coming home from the hospital. I can’t believe how fast Xander has grown, and at the same time, it feels like when you’re waiting for a developmental milestone, it takes forever to arrive. It’s been quite a rollercoaster so far, but a smile or baby giggle makes it all feel like a piece of cake.

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Xander Week 12 - Baby Sign Language?

December 12, 2006

XanderSo, BabyCenter’s weekly bulletin this week discussed baby sign language.  Zach and I had discussed whether or not we wanted to do this with our baby when I was pregnant.  At first glance, this seems like a pretty exciting idea.  All the experts and literature, even Wikipedia sing it’s praises - babies become less frustrated, have fewer tantrums, develop a special bond with their parents, etc.

I have only seen one family who has actually taught their child sign language.  After meeting that little girl, Zach and I decided that we would not teach our kid sign language before he could speak.  This little girl is three years old and has a verbal vocabulary of about 20 words.  She just recently started putting two or three words together.  Although she is three, she appears much younger because she can’t really speak - when she points and says “dog” or “ball” she looks like she’s just a year old, or perhaps developmentally delayed.  I don’t think there is any developmental concerns with this child - she just doesn’t speak.  Since she is able to get her needs met by signing, she has not bothered to learn speech yet.
This may be an isolated case, and I’m sure there are parents out there with positive experiences in infant sign language.  I find it fascinating however, that no one ever discusses the other side - any negative ramifications to teaching your child to sign.  How are parents supposed to make an informed decision when only one side of the issue is presented?  I also wonder about making life too easy - from minimizing frustration as an infant, to not using red pens because it might hurt a child’s feelings to outlawing “tag” because it’s a chase game and one child gets pick on to be “it”.

Sometimes it seems like we spend a great deal of time and effort protecting our children from everything that might upset them.  If we do that, then how will they learn to handle things that truly upset them as adults?  If a baby learns to sign, and that minimizes his or her frustration, then how is that baby going to handle frustration as a toddler or small child?  When do we teach our children how to handle life if we are always shielding them from it?

Maybe baby sign language is the way to go, maybe kids do develop more enriched communication that way, but children have survived for plenty of years without it and still manage to communicate their needs pretty well.   Lots of literature says that kids will learn to roll over faster if you put them on their stomachs because they don’t necessarily enjoy “tummy time” and are motivated to get onto their backs.  Why doesn’t the same logic apply to speech?  Won’t kids learn to speak sooner if they have the motivation to do so?
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