I think so far Zach and I have been fairly lucky in the sibling department. Â In general Xander is an amazing big brother. Â He is sweet, kind, patient and understanding. Â He looks out for his brother and makes sure that if he gets something, his brother also gets the same thing (“Mama, can I have 3 strawberries? Â Can my brother have 3 strawberries too?”)
But lately Xander hasn’t been such a push over. Â In turn, there are arguments over almost everything in the house. Â They argue over who gets the bigger toy snake or who gets the tiny green alien. Â They argue over which books to read at bedtime and whose turn it is with the iPad. Â It feels like our house is a battle zone every day.
I try not to intervene too early. Â I try to let them work it out, which usually means I step in after someone has pushed someone else which mean that that someone else kicked someone, etc. Â They are clearly not working things out well between themselves lately, and it’s exhausting playing referee. Â I’ve resorted toÂ preemptivelyÂ picking who will go into time out next. “The next time I hear screaming, it’s Xander’s turn for time out” then I hear the “but he started it” which leads again and again to the “I don’t care who started it – you both need to stop now”.
Separating them works for short periods of time, but they are drawn to each other like magnets, and it only takes a few minutes for one to discover some fun toy, and the other one to immediately want it. Â I’m not sure what changed in their normal playing behavior recently, but I seriously hope they get themselves figured out before we go on a two week vacation or I’m investing in some industrial strength ear plugs for myself.